Decision

Most of the time, I tend to be scared when it comes to make decision. Why? because I get intimidated very easily. I always want to please others and put them before me, deny my own right to be pleased.

There's nothing wrong if you want to consider the implication of your decision to those around you. However, there's a limit for it. Bear in mind, you cannot please everyone.

I used to have this problem before. I have been always worried that I might offend others if I don't put them in my consideration. I've been so submissive. As a result, I made decision which turned out to be a transcended remorse afterward. and yeah, I hated myself for it!

Let me give you a picture about a situation. This happened few hours ago when I went to buy my groceries with my besties.

Salesperson: May I help you?

Me: Oh, I've found the item that I want.

Salesperson: Would you like to try other brand, XXX (the product's brand is under the term of confidentiality)

Me: No, I don't think so.

Salesperson: But this brand is better than that (pointing to the item in my hand)

Me: Really? But I prefer this one.

Salesperson: (still trying) If you take this product (the XXX brand), it'll benefit you this and that and so on and so on...

Me: Never mind, I don't need it. This is what I want. Thanks by the way.

and then I left.

Be firm when you decide on something, even if it's just a simple thing like what happened in the dialogue above. Always be polite, and you won't feel too bad even if you are going to turn down other people (this is for those who are scared to displease others, like me)

And if possible, don't be so submissive. Learn how to voice out your thoughts. It's you who decides, anyway.

ps: I'm actually still learning on this too. :) Everyone is learning.